by JLucas254🇯🇲 1 June, 2026

St. Patrick’s Primary School, Africa🇰🇪 Day 2026

As we bid farewell to May, I find myself carrying millions of lessons in my heart. Every lesson arrived wrapped in a different package: pain, faith, hope, disappointment, gratitude, confusion, courage, and growth. Such is the journey of life. We never know what each month will bring, but every month leaves us with something to learn.

May was good to me.

I travelled, reconnected with old friends, celebrated special moments, and stepped away from my usual routine. Yet beyond the airports, conversations, and celebrations, May gave me something more valuable: an encounter with myself.

There were moments when I sat quietly and asked, “How did I manage to stay so calm through all of this?” There were moments when I surprised myself. Something as simple as booking flights, changing travel dates, and navigating unfamiliar situations may seem ordinary to some people, but for me, it became a reminder that growth often happens in small victories.

Sometimes we are so focused on our struggles that we fail to notice how much we have grown.

As I welcome another month of discernment, I find myself reflecting on the people who walk through my life. Some are close friends. Others are not particularly close, but they remain present in quiet and meaningful ways. They may not call every day, but they show up when needed. They become unexpected shoulders to lean on.

Then there are those I genuinely call friends, and for them I am deeply grateful.

May also taught me something about relationships and ministry. It reminded me that not everyone who enters our lives is meant to stay forever. Some people are seasonal. Some are companions for only a chapter. Some arrive to teach us lessons, help us heal, challenge us, or redirect us.

They stop by, leave their mark, and continue their journey.

And perhaps that is okay.

One lesson stood out above all others this month:

When someone shows you that you do not matter to them, consider that your closure.

That statement may sound harsh, but life has a way of teaching it gently and repeatedly.

Not every ending arrives with an explanation. Not every goodbye is spoken aloud. Sometimes closure comes quietly through actions that reveal what words never would.

People make time for what they value.

They protect what they fear losing.

They nurture what truly matters to them.

When someone consistently shows indifference, distance, or disregard, they may be communicating more clearly than any conversation ever could.

One of life’s hardest lessons is accepting that closure is not something another person owes us.

Many of us wait for apologies that never come. We wait for explanations that never arrive. We hope for conversations that never happen. Meanwhile, life continues moving forward while we remain standing at a door that has already been closed.

Wisdom begins when we stop searching for answers in the mouths of others and start finding peace within ourselves.

Their actions become the message.

Their absence becomes the explanation.

Their indifference becomes the conclusion.

Accepting this is not bitterness. It is maturity.

The moment we accept what people have shown us, we free ourselves from the exhausting burden of hoping they will become someone they have repeatedly chosen not to be.

As I reflect on May, I realize that growth is not always about gaining new friends, new opportunities, or new experiences. Sometimes growth is learning to let go with grace. Sometimes growth is accepting reality without resentment. Sometimes growth is thanking God for the lesson and continuing the journey.

The journey of life is not about holding on to everyone. It is about learning who is walking with you, who is passing through, and who God is inviting you to become along the way.

As June begins, I pray for a discerning heart, a peaceful mind, and the courage to embrace whatever lessons await me.

For sometimes the greatest act of self-respect is not getting the closure you wanted, but accepting the closure you were given.

And then walking forward in peace.

May God continue to guide your discernment, one lesson, one encounter, and one step at a time.