~ by kaka, 9th Aug 2022

It hurts to lose a loved one, but it hurts even more to lose them when you have something against them and had no time to make amends.

For the past few months, I have been faced with a family issue that has drained me in many ways. I have maintained my smile and my sense of humor but my heart is bloody and my tears are drowning my pillow many nights. I pray that nothing worse will happen, but I am also praying that amendments will be made on both sides. I love my family, and they know that, but, it weighs my heart down not to be able to reach either of them without one thinking that I am in support of the other. It is a wound that I do not want to have; not to be able to talk to so and so because of something that neither of us made happen. I pray that neither of the parties will depart this earth without resolving the issue because death is for all of us, and so is karma.

“No family drops down from heaven perfectly formed; families need constantly to grow and mature in the ability to love,” Pope Francis wrote. A good reminder that, as a family, we will never be perfect, but each one taking the responsibility to try is the first step towards growth.

We are human beings, but we are better than angels to have Jesus among and within us. He dwells with us and we can ask Him for any kind of help. He was once among men with hard hearts as we are and He can hold our hands when the sea of life is rough and guide us to the shore safely.

I was watching a YouTube program by Lyne, one of my mentors in media, and the interviewed gentleman had lost his mother at the hands of his own biological father. The whole family stepped back and the game was left for Isack to play by himself. It was not easy, and he ended up losing his beloved mother. As they were sharing with Lyne, these words came up that you may find helpful for your family too.

Isack’s last words to his mum were “tutaongea kesho” we will talk tomorrow. Something that never happened. He spoke to his mother at 6 pm in the evening and she was dead by 6:45 pm.

What does that say to us? Maybe you are holding a grudge against someone right now. Maybe you have not spoken to someone for a long time. Maybe you are holding back with questions racing in your head ……. Should I? Should I not? This incident could have happened to anyone of us. Maybe not in violent circumstances, but, in whatever circumstances, it will not be easy to take the weight of such an incident. We will talk tomorrow, however, in the next hour, someone could be no more. This is a blow none of us could easily take. I would run mad.

What guarantees do you have that you will be with them tomorrow? There is no better day than today. There is no right moment than this particular moment right here. As we walk the earth with pride to be alive, we must reconcile with that one person that we haven’t spoken to for ages because of what may have transpired. Do it, get that phone, and call them. Do it! Because we are not guaranteed tomorrow. These words from Lyne permeated my heart and they can be healing to you too.

As you whisper the Lord’s prayer, whisper the names of those who have hurt you and ask God for true healing, true peace that comes from Him.