MAN CRYS!
It’s January 25th and have cried, literally shed tears three different times. It’s been a really
hard and dark moment for me since last December. I may not be able to tell it to my friends
because “Boys don’t cry”. At the same time, I have encountered two of my friends who are
facing hard and dark moments than me, and as society dictates they are here trying to
suppress their feelings, hiding tears and shutting off their emotions for the fear of being called
“girl”. This is opening my eyes to realize how flawed our culture upbringing has tormented
us.
It is believed that crying is a biological response to any king of emotional stimulus. For what
reason then should anyone believe that crying or showing emotions is only feminine concept?
Why can’t I cry as a man? Yes, crying makes me weak. It shows that I am not bothered by
others’ opinions about my self-expression. I believe by crying, it establishes you as a strong
person. Just imagine, if holding a sneeze for just a second makes you uncomfortable, imagine
what it would be if you hold your tears all those years must be doing you your body. Both,
crying and sneezing are uncontrolled responses to an outside stimulus. Why then shouldn’t I
cry?
Crying is seen as a weak point of a man who cannot keep secret. One is considered never a
man when they share a problem with others. Solve your problem! The world today has
dictated and made it a taboo that the man who shares the problem is of weak heart and society
is always ready to laugh of such a man. But who really cares what they may be facing in their
lives?
The word of God reminds us, in times of hardship and pain, His grace is sufficient for us.
Even in the midst of crying for what may be affecting us from outside, God’s grace will guide
us through. In 2nd Corinthians reads that Paul was in many time found crying to God so that
He can remove the thorn that was in his flesh. But all times when he cried to God to remove
that which troubled his soul, he was reminded “My grace is sufficient for you.”
We all have thorns in our lives, occasions that beat us in and out that we think we cannot
sustain, weight that overwhelms us. whatever the case, do not give a chance to giving in, do not throw the towel, give whatever is causing pain, lay it by His feet. You may be at a point
where you cannot stretch anymore, but be reminded, ‘His grace is sufficient for you’.
As we celebrate the year of Saint Joseph, he too had moments that may have brought tears to
him. When he found she that he loved and was getting ready to marry was pregnant by
“another man”. It must have been a betrayal moment for him, but when the baby was born, he
cried tears of joy. Saint Joseph must have cried when the boy was lost, when he was
threatened by the king that time, things weren’t all cool and fine, those heavy moment must
have brought tears in his eyes.

As i stated from the beginning , this year has brought me into tears already three time. I felt it and i let it flow. I felt betrayed by the only ear i thought could listen me and that tongue that i expected to communicate to me. That very hand that i was holding to lead me left me to be all by myself. I cried.

These moments are tearful, I too have these moments. When tears just flow, when the knot by the throat can not hold no more. I believe you too, and as a man in today society you may want to
cry it out, but you fear the eyes of the society. So I remind you, do it, CRY. Cry when you are in physical, emotional, and even
spiritual pain. Let it flow. Cry when you lose someone you love dearly. Cry if something or
someone breaks your heart. We are in a world where people aren’t real, betrayal by the most
dear ones can tear your heart so badly. Cry out if someone’s pain hurts you. We are in a
society where people are in terrible pain, cry our if you see someone endearing bodily, mental
or spiritual pain. Yes cry! Cry hard and let it out. Cry even if your brain and the society I’d
telling you not to, cry, shed tears and let them flow like a river. I tell you solemnly, cry,
grieve, sob and heal. Do whatever it takes to get those emotions out of your heart but at no
cost swallow them in. CRYING IS HEALTHY FOR YOU AS A MAN.