ASK YOURSELF WHY?

In any relationship built with someone, male or female, find out how that person was raised. It does not matter which position you may be holding in the society or institution. Nor does it matter the class of life you live that is different from the other. Take note of this, a lot of people were raised unloved…they were raised on “SURVIVAL” and that is why you see many men and women who cannot love or even to take love, since they do not know what love is and what that “love’ comes with. People that were hurt end up hurting other people and this cycle goes on and on to people who do not deserve to be hurt end up wounded. Even though some people would say, “ if you want to be happy, do not dwell on the past, do not worry about the future but rather focus on living fully in the present.” The scare remains, and the memory of how that scare come to be cannot be taken away.

You will find a lot of good-looking people damaged inside because of their past and you will not realize how damaged they are until you try and love them. This is when they will bust and open. But for them to get into that stage, you have to build up relationship that is grounded in “TRUST”. Note this again, many people are mentally and psychologically destroyed and they are incapable of loving or being loved. And despite how good they may look, how hard working they may be, it takes a small move for you to kick them away from you or draw them close to you.

Social media has fooled our generation today, love is not always how it appears to be on TV screens, on Facebook/Instagram/Instagram and other social platform that have emerged in our world today. So true, believe it or not several individuals have been misled for this reason. It takes a wise individual to think twice before a ward comes out of their mouth or an action taken towards someone. Always in any standard of life where relationship is built you should always find out how the other person was raised, what are his/her experiences, why they act the way they do, why they behave in a certain way partner was raised, these “WHY’s” may save both your life and theirs in a tremendous way.

People who have been hurt often end up hurting others and this cycle can be broken down if we all learn to ask ourselves “WHY” before we take an action say a ward to them because even when that ward may be kind, you may not have idea in what kind of heart/ear it is going to land on and germinate. And on the other hand, this bridge can be broken down if in our society we can swallow part of our pride and love in a “REAL” way..

by Lucas Mutune 

13^th august 2019